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- Is he thinking about me during no contact?
- Does he miss me during no contact?
- So what’s the male mind during the no contact rule?
You’ll get comprehensive answers to these questions and more…
All people who are in relationships, when they are out of contact with their other half, pine and long for that level of intimacy they had; the companionship and the connection.
Without that connection, they feel lost and alone.
They have come to realize that without that person whom they were used to speaking with every day, that person’s absence and the memories that were made can take up plenty of space in the heart.
When you allow the no-contact and the sadness of being apart from a partner to overshadow all the other normal aspects of your life, it can overwhelm you – it can break your heart.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with missing your boyfriend and wondering how on earth a season will pass without being in physical contact with him.
Maybe you have been separated from your boyfriend because he is from another country…
…maybe it’s been because of the Covid-19 pandemic, or through any other circumstances.
You are probably wondering if your boyfriend feels anything close to what you do – alone, and longing to be back in his arms again.
Maybe you are overreacting and feel that his texting has even got a little bit low-key and you are frantic with worry.
You are wanting to hear those words, “I miss you so much” but you haven’t heard them being said for some time now.
We are going to give you 17 signs to show you that your guy, even though there is no contact between you, does still miss you – you will feel cheered up.
Remember though, you have to take care of yourself so that you are in good health and good spirits too.
You don’t want your guy to come back and see that you “can’t live without him” when he is not around.
Here we have some tips on how you can still feel together when you are apart!
You need to get out and interact with others again because this promotes feelings of happiness and belonging.
Find yourself doing something that you love because you will see how quickly the time goes when you really are having fun.
What about an exciting photography course, volunteering, or learning to sky-dive?
Something that you will love and which will intrigue your boyfriend when you and he are together again.
Here are the signs that he is missing you even though you are not in contact:
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How to Know if Your Ex Misses You During No Contact
1) He is still interested in your life
He still wants to know what you are doing with your life even without any contact.
That’s a clear sign that he misses you.
He misses the little talks you had every day and particularly misses your whereabouts; what you are getting up to.
It makes him want to know whether you are miserable or happy without him around.
Deep down he wants to know if there is someone new in your life; he wants to feel secure and for you to know that he is still into you.
2) He is overprotective
If he suddenly gets overprotective of you, you can know that he is missing you.
Maybe you need some help with something and he is offering to help you.
3) He apologizes to you
If he apologizes to you in his texting for anything that he thinks is a mistake, that is a sign that he is missing you.
Say now you are a couple who have actually broken up, even then, he might apologize over and over again, wanting to let you see that he is willing to give you and him another chance.
4) He is still nice to you and your family
When you were together you probably had a lot of contact with your family and his family.
Your boyfriend got to know your family members and even became friends with some of them.
If he is still being nice to you and asking after them and being in contact with them, it is a good sign that he still misses you and your family while you are not in contact, and hopes to be together again soon.
5) He is nice to your friends
If he is still missing you a lot, he will still be impressing your friends and still getting them to like him.
If they are in contact with him, but you are not in physical contact with him, they will probably be letting you know what a great guy he is.
And him being in contact with them also is his way, no doubt, of finding out more about you – a sure sign that he still thinks a lot about you and misses you.
6) He is not so exuberant and is a bit depressed
Men usually don’t like showing off their emotions.
In fact, they try and hide them.
But sometimes a guy, if he misses you so much, can actually feel a bit depressed that the two of you are apart.
Maybe you can get a hint of this by checking out his social media profiles to see if there are posts hinting that not all is going so well for him; how he is missing you like crazy.
Otherwise, there might be some pics of him having a good time; then you won’t be so sure even if he says he is missing you.
But either way, if he seems to be depressed and hurting, he is no doubt thinking a lot about you.
7) You are still getting texts saying how much he misses you
If your boyfriend’s texting has gotten even stronger since you and he are out of contact, that is a good sign that he clearly misses you.
He might be even worried that he might lose you if he doesn’t keep up with texting – he has plenty to say to you and he doesn’t want to lose you.
8) Even though you are separated, his social media posts are about you
Often when we can’t be in contact with someone physically, we will try our best to keep things going on social media pages.
We will send posts and pics of us together doing crazy and fun things together.
Thank goodness for social media, because it has made it so easy for you to keep in contact when you can’t be in physical contact, right?
Sometimes, like you, if you are separated from your boyfriend, you might even develop a special kind of code that you send; secret messages to the one you love.
If your boyfriend is doing this, it is obvious that he really is missing you.
9) He might have become even more jealous since he is no longer with you – that’s a good sign
Generally speaking, jealousy isn’t a good emotion to entertain.
But sometimes a little bit of jealousy can keep a relationship going strong and healthy, helping you to feel desired, and competitive.
And if your guy is far away or out of contact with you, you can be sure that he will be showing signs of jealousy about what you are doing on the weekends and who with.
Those are signs that you still impact him and that he is missing you.
And if you have broken up, still, he will be jealous that new guys are showing you interest and you are moving on without him.
10) You can see from your long-distance relationship that he is not dating anyone and staying faithful to you
If you are separated by circumstances or countries, it is not unrealistic to entertain the idea that a man might find a company with other people where women will be…
…and if they make themselves available to him, he might be glad of the company.
But if you can see from his social media pages and by the type of signs above that he is being faithful to you, that is a sure sign that you are still on his mind and that he misses you intently.
If he is not seeing anyone else, he still is carrying a torch for you.
11) He constantly checks your social media profiles
If he is missing you like crazy, he will want to know what you have been up to while you and he are not in contact.
Not only will he text you and ask, but he will check your social medial profile as well to glean as much info about you as possible That’s a sure sign that he is missing you and can’t wait to be back together with you again.
12) He still compliments you a lot
If you post a selfie to him, for instance, you will get a comment back immediately telling you how beautiful you look.
In fact, he tells you how amazing and beautiful you are every day; how fortunate he is to have you in his life.
Those are sure signs that a guy misses you; when he compliments you a lot.
13) He still talks to others about you
He tells you he is missing you.
But you also hear it from his friends and family because he still talks about you when he is around them.
That’s a sure sign that he thinks about you all the time and misses you so much.
Remember, it is not always easy for guys to open up even to their very best friends – they are often used to hiding their feelings and trying to appear in touch and on top of things.
But you might hear through the grapevine how he is missing you so much and can’t wait to see you again.
Awesome!
14) He was and still considers you as his best friend
In a relationship, it’s normal to consider each other as best friends – like soul mates. And that is because you used to spend so much time with each other.
But now that you are apart, you wonder if your boyfriend is missing you because you were his best friend – you are wondering if you still are.
But if he still considers you his best friend, he will be in contact with you, and often!
15) He calls you late at night because he is thinking and dreaming of you still
Nights can be very lonely.
Many people start to overthink things in their life.
But if your guy is still missing you like crazy, he is probably still sending you good night text messages, and he will every now and then want to schedule a late-night call with you to hear you in person and to whisper his love for you.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
How would I know he misses me now that we are apart?
If your mutual friends and his friends, and both your families tell you that he doesn’t stop talking about you, you can be spot on that he truly misses you like crazy. If you have broken up, it is because he probably wants you back.
But if you are separated by circumstances or your boyfriend lives in another country, you can be sure that he will want to see you again, soon.
What is the ‘No Contact Rule?”
The no contact rule is classified as a period of time when you and your boyfriend have broken up, and you don’t contact him at all in that no contact period.
This is to give both of you time and spaced apart from each other. If it is successfully done correctly, this no contact rule helps you to heal from the breakup, and to start growing your own life back as a person. The no contact period can be a month, two months, three months.
Often during this no contact phase, a girlfriend or boyfriend might believe they made a mistake to dump you and they want to come back and try again.
It will be up to you whether you will allow that or not!
I am worried that with no contact, my boyfriend might just move on?
Long-distance relationships, if yours is one, are still about people. Often the distance makes things seem less personal. But both of you have to work on this type of relationship and maintain open and frequent lines of communication. You also have to foster trust and maintain positive emotions.
Then they can work. Strive for intimacy and trust and be trustworthy.
Research shows that long-distance relationships can work in the same ways as other relationships. You just have to treat them the same way to make them work.
How do you know it’s time to quit a long-distance relationship with no contact?
The short answer to that is when it is no longer contributing to your health and wellbeing.
Can a long-distance relationship work?
People who tell you that a long-distance relationship can’t work don’t know anything! In fact, they can work out just as ‘normal’ relationships do.
You can maintain a ‘contactless’ relationship for the entire relationship.
Some people will admit that a year or two apart can build a relationship and make it stronger; that it teaches you a lot about each other.
How would I really know he is no longer into me now that we are apart?
We have shown you 17 signs that, while you are not in contact with your boyfriend at this stage of your relationship, he is still missing you and your relationship is intact.
He makes sure that you know that you are loved and missed.
But on the other side of the coin, there might be signs you are seeing that make you not so sure anymore.
It is possible that your feelings might be right and that your relationship was coming to an end, either while you were physically together, or now that you are no longer in contact.
Conclusion
Missing someone you can’t be in physical contact with can often prove to be painful.
It is possible that you are a girlfriend of a boyfriend whose work takes him far away.
But there are plenty of other reasons why you two could be apart right now; separated; not in contact with each other – It can be pretty painful.
Whatever the reasons are; and you are still in love with him, you will definitely want to know from him that he loves you and misses you and that he is eagerly waiting to see you again.
That’s why we have given you 17 signs that can make you happy and content that your boyfriend still has your back and that he misses you like crazy.
It might be that you find the time apart very lonely and at times, you don’t want to do anything; the coping strategies you put in place are not bringing much relief.
A good step for you might be finding some professional support, but if not, we have given you some wonderful ideas that will bring you happiness and fulfillment…
….imagine when your boyfriend comes back and finds you a highly positive, confident, happy, and on-top-of-your-game woman.
You can be sure that he will find you highly desirable and charming – enough to make some decisions about never being separated from you again!
Good luck!
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FAQs
How do you know if he's thinking about you during no contact? ›
He'll show signs that “no contact” is working.
He asks mutual friends about you (or they tell you that he misses you). He's super active on your social media and follows you closely. He's way more responsive to your messages (if you're in contact). He makes sudden changes or improvements to his appearance.
Will a guy miss you during no contact? Because the truth is, during no contact with your ex, they will start to miss you no matter what. What they do with that feeling is dependent on their personality. If you were dating an incredibly stubborn person, it might take months before your ex gives in and reaches out.
How do you know if your ex wants you back during no contact? ›- They Make Attempts To Stay In Touch. ...
- They Keep You Updated. ...
- They Get And Want To Make You Jealous. ...
- They Pretend That They Need Your Help. ...
- They Keep Bringing Up Your Memories Together. ...
- They Tell You How Far They Have Come. ...
- They Keep Checking With Mutual Friends About Your Well-being.
If your ex is trying to contact you, or maybe even trying to speak to you at weird hours, then it might be a sign they still think about you. Another big sign is social media. If they somehow didn't get rid of you via an unfriending or straight block, it might mean they miss you.
How do you tell if your ex is waiting for you? ›- They contact you again. ...
- They ask to be friends again. ...
- They ask to meet up. ...
- They flirt with you. ...
- They text you on important days. ...
- They are still single. ...
- They post too many pictures with others. ...
- They take the blame for the breakup.
The male mind during no contact
The no-contact rule male psychology forces him to recognize his loneliness. After a breakup, if you stop contacting him, he will feel free and enjoy this phase as much as he can. But, with time, the loneliness and guilt pang will start to kick in.
So, a few weeks to two months is the answer to the question, “How long does it take for a guy to miss you?” Typically, men realize what they lost when they can't find a woman with their personality. By then, they learn not all women are the same, and they shouldn't have broken off the relationship.
How do you know he's moved on? ›- Communication Dwindles. Relationships are built on interactions, and if you're not in touch in one way or another — in person, on the phone, or elsewhere — there's not really a relationship. ...
- Interactions Become Less Fun. ...
- Interactions Become Less Awkward. ...
- They Get Serious With Someone Else.
Take your time replying to those frequent calls or texts by your man. You can even avoid his calls for some time to make him wonder what you're up to, especially if you've been bothered by him. To even spice things up, you can add that you were with another guy friend, which is enough to make him go crazy about you.
What makes a man really miss you? ›Simply be courteous and keep some physical distance between you two whenever you meet. Let him have his space but do let him know you miss him once in a while. Remind him of the fun things you did together before but not anymore. Communicate instead of giving the cold shoulder, hoping to send a message.
Do men respond to silence? ›
Men respond to silence and distance emotionally.
When they don't hear from you for a while, their male instinct pushes them to find you and know how you feel. They want to see if you are fine, if you miss them or whether you value their existence. Strangely enough, it doesn't matter if you like him to not.
- They begin to communicate with you.
- They apologize for the breakup.
- They show more affection.
- They discuss issues in their present relationship.
- They try to atone for past mistakes.
- They show pessimism when you tell them someone else is involved.
- They stalk you.
- There's no communication. Save. ...
- Your conversations have gone dull. ...
- You have been friend-zoned. ...
- Your ex is enjoying life after separation. ...
- They have blocked you on all the social media platform. ...
- They speak ill about you. ...
- They return all your stuff. ...
- They avoid your family and friends.
The best way to tell if your ex misses you is to hear it directly from the source. Whether a sweeping gesture or something more subtle, if your ex tells you they miss you, aren't over you, or still love you, it's probably safe to believe them.
How does a man feel when a woman leaves him? ›Many people feel a sense of grief for the person and relationship they lost. Your significant other might very well experience intense sadness after you walk away as he grieves for what you had together. Being dumped can also cause him to question his self-worth and lower his self-esteem. He may miss you.
How long does it take a man to miss you after no contact? ›According to the experts, it will take between two to four months before he starts feeling lonely. He'll be doing everything possible to block out his emotions during this time. But once he surrenders to them, he'll start missing you.
How do you know if no contact is working? ›If the messages they're sending you change from sweet to angry, you'll know that the no contact rule is really working. When they still can't get ahold of you, they'll probably realize that you're not going to come around, and they'll get sad about what they've lost.
How do you know if a guy is heartbroken? ›If he avoids seeing you at all costs even though it is important, it is one of the signs he is heartbroken over you. He knows that when he sees you, the memories will come flooding, and it might be too much for him to handle. Also, he would ensure avoiding places where you are likely to show up.
How do you make a guy realize he misses you? ›- Deliberately leave things behind. ...
- Give him some personal space. ...
- Make him wait before replying his texts. ...
- Take things slow. ...
- Wear a unique perfume. ...
- Add some mystery to your experiences together. ...
- Have adventures with him (and your friends)
- He texts you often. ...
- He always calls you. ...
- He responds to your texts and calls immediately. ...
- He talks about you. ...
- He is all over your social media. ...
- He gets jealous. ...
- His friends give you hints. ...
- He texts or calls you when drunk.
How do you know if he is over you? ›
- He's asking for too much space, it doesn't make sense. ...
- You feel it deep within. ...
- You are also losing interest in the relationship. ...
- Communicating with him is like talking to the statue of liberty. ...
- He no longer initiates sex. ...
- Having sex with you feels like a chore.
- Her name comes up…a lot. ...
- He still seems angry with her. ...
- He's still mourning the relationship. ...
- He considers her his best female friend. ...
- He compares you to her. ...
- He doesn't bring you around mutual friends. ...
- He's still close to her family. ...
- He hasn't given back her stuff.
- 6 Signs That Your Ex May Be Gone For Good.
- Situation #1: Cheating.
- Situation #2: Non Responsive Exes.
- Situation #3: Long Distance Relationships.
- Situation #4: Being Put In A Full Out Block.
- Situation #5: There Is A Big Age Gap.
- Situation #6: You've Been Broken Up For More Than 8 Months.
- Express your feelings (to him) One of the most direct ways to learn how to make him regret ignoring you is by being upfront about it. ...
- Get your story straight. ...
- Be less available. ...
- Spend time with friends (especially mutual friends) ...
- Block him. ...
- Pursue other options. ...
- Conclusion.
Men love women who are thoughtful, caring, loving and kind. A woman who does little things for her man for no other reason other than that she loves him. A woman who makes him smile back whenever she smiles at him. A woman who radiates love and warmth from her heart.
Do guys eventually miss you? ›If you've been thinking something like, “Do guys miss their ex?” Of course they do. Guys tend to show a strong persona to hide their true feelings after breakups. Sometimes, they try to act mature, sometimes they try to act uber-cool and nonchalant. Sooner or later, that façade will fall.
Why would a man go silent? ›Many guys hate failing and feeling inadequate. They often don't have the speed of words to compete with their partner in a conflict. Men's emotional processing capacity is often much slower than their partner. Whilst being silent is a sign of a man's need to process it is also a way to avoid the feelings of defeat.
Why do men respond to no contact? ›The no-contact rule male psychology forces him to recognize his loneliness. After a breakup, if you stop contacting him, he will feel free and enjoy this phase as much as he can. But, with time, the loneliness and guilt pang will start to kick in.
What to do when he goes silent? ›Calmly tell the person that you've noticed they're not responding and you want to understand why. Emphasize that you want to resolve things. While it's not your fault that someone else decides to give you the silent treatment, you do have a responsibility to apologize if you've done something wrong.
How do you know your breakup isn't final? ›- You haven't moved on. ...
- You still hang out together. ...
- They've been sending you mixed messages. ...
- You're learning how to communicate with your ex. ...
- They reminisce with you. ...
- They reach out during trials. ...
- They ask about you through friends. ...
- You have both been working on your issues.
Will a guy regret losing you? ›
So if you're sitting around thinking about that one ex who dumped you for no reason and wondering, “Will he regret losing me?,” then take it from these guys: The answer is almost definitely yes. Your ex might not be one of these Reddit users, but they could be feeling the exact same thing.
Does a man regret losing a good woman? ›Men don't tend to feel regret straight away. In fact, it can take them up to six months before they start to regret losing a good woman. One of the things that will make him regret it sooner is seeing you with someone better than him.
Which signs are most likely to go back to their ex? ›- 5 zodiac signs that are likely to give a second chance to their ex. Every one of us has committed an almost unpardonable act at some point in our lives. ...
- Libra. Libras are strong proponents of forgiving others. ...
- Cancer. Cancer has a difficult time saying goodbye once they become close to someone. ...
- Virgo. ...
- Pisces. ...
- Gemini.
If your ex is doing things they've never done before, it's another sign that they're doing well without you. Maybe they have a new hobby or are going out with friends more often. They might be feeling more confident and unafraid to try new things.
How can you tell if an ex still has feelings? ›- They keep texting or calling you. ...
- They follow you on social media. ...
- They don't return your stuff. ...
- They contact your friends, or their friends contact you. ...
- They cross your path. ...
- They get jealous or want to make you feel jealous. ...
- They are not moving on.
In fact, based on our research you can expect the average ex to begin missing you anywhere between 2.5 to 5.2 months after a breakup assuming you put forth signals that you are “moving on from them.”
What he thinks when you don t text him? ›1 He thinks you're busy. 2 He's trying to brush it off. 3 He might think you're playing “hard to get.” 4 He's worried you're ignoring him because you're upset.
How do you know if the no contact rule is working? ›If the messages they're sending you change from sweet to angry, you'll know that the no contact rule is really working. When they still can't get ahold of you, they'll probably realize that you're not going to come around, and they'll get sad about what they've lost.
Does no contact work on men? ›By using the no contact rule on your man, you take control for yourself and he takes on the feeling of loss. He will then seek to reclaim what he lost with you. Though nothing is one-hundred percent effective, this post explains why the no contact rule works on men and it works very well.
Does no contact work if he went back to his ex? ›The no-contact rule will not help you get your ex back
But despite what some people will tell you on the internet, no contact is not particularly effective for getting an ex back. Just because some people have exes who reached out to them after a period of no contact doesn't mean this will be the case for everyone.
How do you show him you're done? ›
- Let Him Know That You Are Prepared To Walk Away. Save. ...
- Do Not Let Him Take Away Your Efforts In Vain. Easier said than done! ...
- Prioritize Yourself. ...
- Remind Him That He Is Not Your Only Option. ...
- Make Yourself Busy. ...
- Go For A New Look. ...
- Take A Break From Replying. ...
- Do Not Try To Please Him.
The best way to make a guy miss you is to pull away. Refrain from texting or calling him for the smallest things. If you reach out to him constantly, he does not have any chance to miss you. Instead, give your special person a reason and some time to miss you.
Will he keep texting if he's not interested? ›Whatever the reason you can't be together, something is up with this guy and it has you wondering: Why is he texting me if he's not interested in anything more? Well, as a professional dating coach, let me assure you by saying that this is extremely common. Guys do this all the time!
Does no contact mean its over? ›What Is the No Contact Rule? “The No Contact rule is where you don't call, text, or communicate with an ex in any way after the breakup. It includes not talking to their friends or family about them or the breakup itself,” says dating and breakup coach Lee Wilson.
How do you know when a guy hasn't moved on? ›- Her name comes up…a lot. ...
- He still seems angry with her. ...
- He's still mourning the relationship. ...
- He considers her his best female friend. ...
- He compares you to her. ...
- He doesn't bring you around mutual friends. ...
- He's still close to her family. ...
- He hasn't given back her stuff.
While 30 days is a good rule of thumb, everybody is different. Some people move on really fast after a breakup, while other people take a long time. If 30 days pass and you still aren't ready, it's totally okay to extend your period of no contact.